ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Domestic violence (DV) is a generic term for
abusive behavior between couples. It is a learned systematic
behavior that uses physical, sexual, and/or psychological abuse in
order to exert and maintain power and control over an intimate
partner. The patterns of abuse does not usually begin with an act of
violence. Psychological Abuse, including isolation, minimization of
her decision-making abilities and obsessive jealousy, are usually
initiated first. Abuse and battering is a system of behaviors
to control another person’s actions and feelings.
Domestic violence has claimed the lives of women
and men irrespective of class, education, race, religion, status and
orientation. Primarily women, but also men, are physically abused
and emotionally exploited right within their own homes and families.
Recent FBI statistics show that a woman is beaten every 12 sec
nationwide. A domestic partner will assault 1 out of 4 women in the
United States at least once in her lifetime. In addition, children
in homes where domestic violence occurs are physically abused or
seriously neglected at a rate of 1500% higher than the national
average of the population.
ISLAM AND DOMESTIC
The foundation of an Islamic
marriage is described in the following verse from the Holy Quran:
“And among His signs is this:
that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may
dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy
between your (hearts). Verily in that are signs for those who
reflect.” (Quran : 30: 21).
The above verse can be taken as a reminder that
spouses are inherently equal, and that the union between them is a
peaceful and compassionate one. Marriage is considered in Islam to
be an act of obedience to God, and the goal of each person within
the marriage is to please God by living a divinely guided life and
avoiding His prohibitions. Any behavior or interaction done with the
intent of upholding divine instruction will be rewarded by God in
the hereafter and will contribute to a healthy family unit.
Islam does not regard woman in any
way inferior to man. It makes both of them equal partners in the
business of life. They are two wheels of the same carriage and the
carriage cannot move forward without either. The verse below shows
that men and women come from the same root; they are branches of the
"O Mankind! Reverence your
Guardian Lord, Who created you from a single person, created, of
like nature, His mate, and from them twain Scattered like seeds
countless men and women" (Quran : 4: 1)
Under no circumstances does the Quran encourage, allow, or condone
family violence or physical abuse.
“The best of you are those who
treat their wives best”.
Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him)